If there’s one thing that needs to stop in today’s society, it’s one-itis. For you non PUA literate people, one-itis is when a guy is head over heels over a girl. One girl. And refuses to compromise. Another girl that is just as good won’t cut it for him. It has to be that one girl. It’s not just a few of my friends, it seems to be everywhere. To that I ask:

Q: If you’re crazy about a girl and you want to be with her really badly but she does not return the sentiments, is that “love” or “obsession?”

Q: If there are over 3 billion women on the planet, why would you be fixated on one?

Q: How many truly unique personalities do you know? If you’re honest with yourself, it’s probably less than 100. Isn’t there bound to be a girl somewhere with the exact same personality? I mean, we have a lot of friends that think like us because our similar environment, right? How could one girl truly be “unique”?

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And the best way to lose a girl is to not be able to give her up.

The thing is, a lot of people are naturally pussies, though they’d never admit it (some don’t even know it). When they start to fixate on one woman, the inner pussy comes out. They start become needy and clingy, or somehow just not as alpha as they were. This is why a lot of people with game like to date 3 girls or so at a time, so they can avoid getting one-itis and becoming clingy.

You know when a guy gets up and puts on his coat and she asks “where are you going?”

Well, it’s kinda clingy of her. Obviously, she does not get much self-validation when she’s home waiting for him to come back from work. She becomes clingy because he’s basically all she has.

He, on the other hand, has people at work and comes back tired. There’s no need to be clingy to her.

She does not want to give him up, so she becomes clingy. He perceives it as nagging and is driven further away.

Of course, a man is much more tolerant of a clingy woman than a woman is tolerant of a clingy guy. The evolutionary aspect of this is simple: A woman loyal to a man means replication value for the man, while a guy loyal to a woman can mean he’s a beta male and needs to be replaced by an alpha male for the sake of the offspring.

So don’t develop one-itis. Don’t be clingy, especially as a guy. To make sure you truly have a girl, you must be willing to let her go.

I remember I was having a fight with Trisha a few weeks back and I just said “whatever, do what you want, I’m going this way” and left. She followed me, shadowed me for a good 2 minutes before asking me if she could come along. If you’re not clingy, they sense it and reward you for it.

Speaking of Trisha,  I figured out why her parents don’t like me. I’m not a doctor, lawyer, or engineer. And history, as an undergrad major, does little to impress Asian parents. So I guess my whole existence is pissing them off. It really gives me something to think about while she’s riding my dick, which I believe is the second hottest thing a woman can do. I’m not gonna tell you the first, because you’d think I was some kind of super pervert, which I am.*

Oh yeah, and the whole “3 billion women on Earth” thing should do wonders for a man’s potential approach anxiety. If you’re afraid to approach a woman, just think about how many other woman there are in the world, and getting blown off by this one won’t mean shit. It’s an insignificant speck in the universe, kinda like Earth itself. Rejection by one person isn’t that bad in the grand scheme of things. This perspective really helped me at college parties.

*Everyone has a cardinal sin as their weakness. No exceptions. I know mine is lust, which in the grand scheme of things isn’t that bad I guess. It’s way better than wrath.